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LIFE

“We hate to have some people give us advice because we know how badly they need it themselves.”
Laurence J. Peter

“When a man comes to me for advice, I find out the kind of advice he wants, and I give it to him.”
Josh Billings

“Pay attention… Sometimes it’s the person giving you the medicine who’s making you sick.”
– Steve Maraboli

“People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’re lost.”
— Dalai Lama


Does this sound familiar?

“Try to do this….”

“This is what you need to do…”

“Have you tried….?”

“If I was you, I would…”

Life is full of advice and mummy life even more so with advice flowing from each direction.

It’s kind of natural.

When people talk about their problems, we automatically want to help them, fix things, make them feel better… So giving them advice is basically a reflex.

While it comes from the best possible place, the truth is, that most of the time, people don’t want your advice. They just want you to listen. Only rarely they seek advice and if they do, they ask for it.

Now, I want you to read this sentence and observe how it makes you feel:

If you give unsolicited advice, you actually undermine the other person’s intelligence for you believe they cannot work it out themselves.

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