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I am the author of Motherhood – The Unspoken, motivational speaker, award-winning mentor, mother of three mixed-race boys (including twins) & wife to an amazing husband, who is on a mission to create a world where mums don’t suffer in silence. After my twin boys, Henry & Mason, were born in 2016, I struggled with …

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Creating a world where mums don't struggle in silence ❤️ PPD survivor. Award winning mentor. Seen in @Forbes @BBC. Author of Motherhood-The Unspoken👇

Do you want to help make a difference for new mums

Do you want to help make a difference for new mums while earning some extra money?

I’m now looking for affiliate partners to help me promote GET PREPARED FOR MOTHERHOOD LIKE NO ONE ELSE, an online course I co-created with award-winning midwife (and mum of 5!) Marley Hall. 🥰❤️

The reason we created this course was to fill the major gap in prenatal and antenatal services. Most antenatal classes focus heavily on birth but offer zero or only minimal information about life after baby and postnatal mental health. This lack of education and support often leads to silent struggles, and, in many cases, severe mental health issues.

GET PREPARED FOR MOTHERHOOD LIKE NO ONE ELSE helps set more realistic expectations about life AFTER baby, it offers PRICELESS tips on how to cope with new mum challenges, what mistakes to avoid, provides tons of support and reassurance to every new mum…. And, in the process, it helps dramatically lower the risks of PPD.

If you’re interested in joining my mission to create a world where mums no longer struggle in silence, get in touch! ❤️

The course is priced at £247 and here’s the breakdown of the commission structure based on monthly sales:

1-5 sales per month: 20% per sale
6-15 sales per month: 35% per sale
16 or more sales per month: 50% per sale

To make the proceed as easy (and as enjoyable!) as possible for you, I’ll provide marketing material and ongoing support 🥰

Drop me a DM and let’s make a difference for future mums together. ❤️

With love,
Ivana xx

#mumssupportingmums #ppd #postnataldepression #postpartumdepression #postnatalmentalhealth #maternalmentalhealth #postpartumhealth #maternalmentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthadvocate #prenatal #antenatal

We don’t need reminders of how much we’re jugg

We don’t need reminders of how much we’re juggling-we’re living it! What we really need is help and support. 🙏❤️

#mumlife #momlife #motherhoodlife #lifewithlittles #lifewithkids #lifewithtoddlers #lifewithkiddos #motherhoodmemes #mumhumour #motherhoodhumor

I’m sure you know how important it is to have he

I’m sure you know how important it is to have help as a mum of small children, but I’m also sure that despite knowing it, you don’t ask for it (or accept it) enough.

So here’s a suggestion:

Don’t ask for help when you’re in the thick of it, when you are exhausted and overwhelmed. In these moments we’re more fragile, emotional and vulnerable, and therefore, less likely to reach out for help.

Whereas when you reach out early—before you’re totally drained, you highly increase the chances of actually doing it.

Makes sense? :)

Remember, asking for help doesn’t mean that you are weak. It means that you choose to remain strong. ❤️

So reach out early, not just for you, but for your little ones who need you at your best.

You’ve got this! 💪❤️

#mumssupportingmums #mumselfcare #askforhelp #askforhelpwhenyouneedit #motherhoodintheraw #mumtips #mumhacks #parentingtips #parentinghacks #parentingadvice #parentingtipsandtricks

Stay-at-home mums are often told, ‘You’re so l

Stay-at-home mums are often told, ‘You’re so lucky to be at home with your kids’…

But are they?

This may come as a surprise to many but being a stay at home mum is not a dream job with no sacrifices.

Many working parents sag that they go to work to get some rest, and there’s a reason they say it. (I still remember seeing Yaw from the window walking home veery slowly from work when our twins were tiny 😂)

Yes, some women choose to stay at home with the kids but it forms mean it doesn’t come with the emotional and physical toll…

Waking up to crying children, spending entire days singing nursery rhymes, preparing meals that go uneaten, multitasking non-stop, cleaning endless messes, hearing ‘Mummy!’ a thousand times a day, having zero privacy, and squeezing in little to no time for yourself….

Not so glamorous, is it?

Why is it then that stay at home mums are often perceived as people who are lazy or incapable of doing a “proper” job?

Because in fact it’s quite the opposite. Being a SAHM requires the set of skills and capabilities that often verge on supernatural powers.

Yet society applauds career achievements and financial success, yet stay at home mums, who dedicate themselves to nurturing the next generation, often face judgment, guilt, and a sense of invisibility.

So here’s the truth I want all stay at home mums to know: what you do is freaking AMAZING!!

You are raising the future, and that’s pretty HUGE.

To all the stay-at-home mums out there-how do you feel about the way your work is perceived? Do you feel the pressure to ‘do more’? What do you think the society can do to change this? Xx

#stayathomemums #stayathomemoms #sahm #stayayhomemum #mumsbecomingonecom #momsaresuperheroes #ukmums #sahmlife #sahmproblems

I love these heart-melting moments with the kids.

I love these heart-melting moments with the kids. ❤️ BUT…

I also like talking about the tough moments.

Because they are a part of motherhood too. And by normalising them, we make them feel less heavy and overwhelming. 🙏❤️

Let me tell you my today’s trip to the park as an example.

After about half an hour of playing (which included a football in a muddy puddle🙈), I found myself caught up in this scene:

One boy (8) slipped and is now on the ground, crying. Another boy (2) is screaming because he wants me to chase him. The third boy is by the gate, yelling that he wants to go home.
Thirty minutes later, I’m carrying a screaming and kicking 2-year-old who is covered in mud—and now I am too—home..

And the saddest thing? These moments are not abnormal at all!

How was Your day? Share some of the tough moments with me below, and let’s make motherhood less lonely for each other 🥰 xx

#motherhoodunplugged #realmotherhood #realparenting #motherhoodunfiltered #honestparenting #honestmotherhood #honestmum

Seeing my book ‘Motherhood- The Unspoken’ [lin

Seeing my book ‘Motherhood- The Unspoken’ [link in the bio] helps you feel less alone, and that it gives you HOPE is the best reward I could wish for. ❤️🥹 It’s why I wrote it in the first place. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.💓

#newmumlife #firsttimemum #newtomotherhood #firsttimeparent #postpartum #postnatal #fourthtrimester #lifewithanewborn #4thtrimester

Can we be real for a second?⁣ Some days, you do

Can we be real for a second?⁣

Some days, you don’t want to be ‘strong.’⁣

You don’t want to hear, ‘You’re such a strong mum,’ or, ‘You’ve got this.’ Because sometimes, you don’t feel strong.⁣

There are moments when you just want to fall apart, to let someone else take over. To have someone say, ‘It’s okay if you’re not okay today.’ Because the truth is, some days, you just need to be held. You need to be allowed to be weak, to cry, to feel overwhelmed without guilt.⁣ ❤️

We’re told to power through, to keep it all together. But why do we have to? Being a mum is hard. Sometimes, we need to be the ones taken care of.

So if you’re tired of being ‘strong,’ if you just need a hug and permission to fall apart today, I’m here to tell you—it’s OKAY. 💓 You’re allowed to feel weak.

Being a mum doesn’t mean you have to be a superhero every day. It’s okay to ask for help, to say, ‘I can’t do this alone right now.’

Sending you the biggest virtual hug today. 🤗 You are more than enough, just as you are.⁣ ❤️

#PermissionToBeWeak #Mumlife #ItTakesAVillage #itsoktonotbeok #youareenough #MaternalMentalHealth #momsmentalhealth #mumsmentalhealth #mumssupportingmums

I'm going to share something deeply personal with

I'm going to share something deeply personal with you today… something I wish someone had told me before I became a mum.

When I had my twin boys, everyone said how lucky I was, how blessed I must feel. But the truth? I didn’t feel blessed. I felt overwhelmed, exhausted, and completely alone. 😔

I didn’t recognise myself. I was buried under the weight of endless sleepless nights, anxiety about being a ‘good enough’ mum, and the crushing silence of feeling like no one truly understood what I was going through. The smiles I forced on the outside didn’t match the storm inside.

But the worst part?

My story is far from unique.

That’s why I wrote 'Motherhood: The Unspoken'—because the truth about motherhood NEEDS to be shared.

It’s not your typical ‘how-to’ parenting book. It’s a book about survival. It’s a book that will remind you that you are NOT alone, and you don’t have to figure everything out by yourself. It’s the book I wish I had when I became a mum. 🙏

So if you’re feeling lost, confused, or like you’re failing at this whole motherhood thing (spoiler: you’re not!), then this book is for you. ❤️

And here’s the thing—'Motherhood: The Unspoken' isn’t just my story. It’s every mum’s story. It’s your story, too. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that sharing our stories helps us heal.

So, if you’re ready to feel seen, understood, and supported, grab your copy now.

The link is in the bio. ❤️ @ivanapoku

With love,
Ivan xx

#MotherhoodTheUnspoken #mumtruth #PostnatalDepression #MaternalMentalHealth #BreakingTheSilence #RealMotherhood #MumLifeUnfiltered #YouAreNotAlone #FirstTimeMum #Postnatal #Postpartum

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