I am Ivana, a postnatal depression survivor, motivational speaker, award-nominated blogger, award-winning mentor, author of Motherhood – The Unspoken, mother of three (including twins) & wife to an amazing husband, on a mission to create a world where new mothers don’t suffer in silence.
After my twin boys were born, I struggled with major postnatal depression. This was frankly the scariest experience of my life and something I don’t wish on anyone. Saying I felt low at the time would be an understatement. I hated being a mum, I longed to turn back time and even wished to be dead at one point.
I felt incredibly ashamed about how I felt and put all the effort into hiding my feelings. Outwardly, I was the happy, relaxed mum I thought I should be but inside, I was screaming.
Today I know I was not the only mum who’d felt this way. Even if things don’t go as far as depression, being a mum is nothing like we had expected and without relevant information and support, this can easily lead to guilt, self-doubt, and severe mental health issues.
I am convinced that one of the main triggers for postnatal depression are the unrealistic expectations about motherhood. (Social) media and the environment feed us with the illusion that motherhood is nothing but pure joy and happiness. However, this is often not the case so if a mum does not feel happy right away, she often feels like a failure and falls into depression.
I believe that the best way to lower the risks of postnatal depression is help new parents to set realistic expectation about motherhood and be honest with each other about how we really feel.
With my work, I am on a mission to achieve just that!
I want it to be GENERAL KNOWLEDGE that motherhood is NOT all bed of roses so new mum ever has to feel like I did.
Am I crazy to achieve that?
But like Steve Jobs once said, the people who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do.
My debut book Motherhood – The Unspoken offers real insights into the life of a new mum, reveals the untold truths about motherhood people don’t talk about, helps lower the risks of postnatal depression, and offers PLENTY of support and reassurance to new mums. Click HERE to get your copy today.