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Ivana xx

I am author of Motherhood - The Unspoken, motivational speaker, award-winning mental health advocate, mother of three mixed race children (including twins) & wife to an amazing husband, who is on a mission to stop silent struggles and postnatal depression.

Ivana Poku

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❤️ On a mission to stop silent struggles in mums and #PPD
👉Maternal mental health advocate & speaker
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✍️Author of Motherhood-The Unspoken

The other day, an idea popped into my head. It was

The other day, an idea popped into my head. It was as clear as a cloudless sky. It said: “Design a T-shirt with the phrase ‘Hey mama, I’m here if you need to talk’ to encourage open conversations among mums!”

I couldn’t help but picture how I would have felt if I had seen this when I was struggling in silence.

“Would I have opened up? Would I have approached the person wearing it? Would I have shared my feelings with them?”

I would probably have been dying to, but then doubt would likely kick in. “What are they going to think? What if they judge me? If they knew how I REALLY feel, I’m sure they would judge me.”

And that’s where it would probably stop.

BUT…

It would have planted a SEED OF HOPE. A hope that I wasn’t alone. And I’d soon be asking myself: “What if it IS okay to open up? What if it was safe? What if people would actually understand and support me?”

This seed would have either given me the courage to open up eventually… but even if not, it would be there, at the back of my mind, constantly reminding me I was not alone.

Isn’t it amazing? What a huge difference one simple question can make! ❤️

So, if you want to be that seed of hope, for yourself or for other mums out there, please grab your T-shirt today.

Because you never know who might need that small spark of encouragement. You never know whose life you might change with just a few words.

Link for the TALK shop is in the bio.
❤️

#ohheymama #mumssuportingmums #youarenotalone #mamadiaries #anxiousmama #tiredmama #mumsmentalhealth #unitedinmotherhood #lifewithkids #momminainteasy

Shortly after this lovely moment, baby yaw threw a

Shortly after this lovely moment, baby yaw threw a big tantrum in the middle of the road. 🙈😳

We were just about to cross the road when he started to scream frantically. The (empty) buggy tipped over, spilling all its contents onto the road as cars were passing by... you get the picture.

So here’s what I want you to remember: No matter how much other mums appear to ‘have it all together’, we ALL struggle with the same problems.

All of us.

No exceptions.

You are not alone. ❤️

#mumlife #mumsupportingmums #mumsupport #youarenotalone #ohheymamas #mumsofinstagram #mumsofinsta #realmotherhood #motherhoodunfiltered #honestparenting

I was beaming with joy reading this one! Of course

I was beaming with joy reading this one! Of course, not the fact that @kate_forbes_msp had postnatal depression (that’s something I don’t wish on anyone), but the fact that another amazing mum speaks openly about the illness and the lack of postnatal support. As the more of us speak up, the more we help other mums out there, and hopefully, contribute to making a lasting change for mums worldwide. Thanks so much Kate for your honesty!! Reading the piece, it literally felt like reading my own words. Thank you!! ❤️

#postnataldepression #postpartumdepression #maternalmentalhealth #postnatalsupport #mumsmentalhealth #postpartumsupport #fourthtrimester

Our twins are currently in Slovakia with my family

Our twins are currently in Slovakia with my family. They had been looking forward to it for months (after all, they don’t get to see them that often), but the day they left was very, VERY emotional.

And even though I knew this experience was good for them, the guilt and a swirl of underlying emotions got the best of me.

I admit, I felt like a hypocrite. I thought - ‘I am supposed to HELP mums with guilt!’ Yet here I was, drowning in guilt and feeling helpless.

Sure, I could be selfish and book a next day flight to ease the guilt, but how would it help them? (especially in the long run) How would it help ME? What would I be modeling to them?

You see, I used to think guilt was a bad thing. Today, I don’t think that anymore.

Healthy guilt is good; it means you are human, that you love and care.

The ‘problem’ is when it eats you up, takes over your life, and impacts your well-being. I am using air quotes because it is not really a problem—it is an opportunity for growth.

I am convinced that this type of unhealthy guilt stems from our unresolved childhood issues.

So what did I do?

I took this experience as another wonderful opportunity to face my wounds and resolve them.

It was not easy (it never is), but boy, was it cathartic (it always is).

So please, whenever you feel guilty, remember it is not something that needs to be changed or run away from. See it as a life compass guiding you towards healing and growth—for both you and your children.

You got this! xx

PS. And yes, this is me admitting I still struggle with mum guilt sometimes. Told you I was not perfect; )

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No words can describe the feeling when you see mum

No words can describe the feeling when you see mums reading your book. One you poured your heart and soul into. One that you wrote with the burning desire to help others never have to feel the pain you did as a new mum. One you show your most vulnerable self, your innermost thoughts, and feelings in. One that you spent months writing, often at night, instead of sleeping, knowing you’d be exhausted the next day, but the desire to make a difference for other moms was stronger and kept you going. One that you knew putting out there would risk people judging you, but you did anyway. One that makes your heart ache with pride.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you to everyone who has purchased their copy of ‘Motherhood - the Unspoken’ or helped share the word in any way. You have no idea how much it means. ❤️🙏

(Book link is in the bio)

With love and gratitude, Ivana xx

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Being a perfect mum isn’t about perfection. It’s about the love you pour into every day, the mistakes you learn from, doing what’s best for them, and the ways you care and keep going, even when you’re breaking. Don’t strive for perfection, mama; it’s the imperfections that make your motherhood journey unique, magical, and ultimately perfect. ❤️ You got this! Xx

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If you are expecting a baby, you have probably not

If you are expecting a baby, you have probably noticed it is not exactly the ‘magical time’ you thought it would be.

And you are not alone! I too was shocked by how I felt when I finally got pregnant after years of wanting children.

I thought it would be the best time of my life, but in reality, I felt awful. I felt sick, uncomfortable, irritable, and could not adjust to how my life was changing. I was also scared and had millions of questions in my mind.

Feeling like this is totally normal, by the way. Your life is changing dramatically, so it is understandable you can’t adjust to it overnight.

But the thing is—once my babies arrived, there was SO MUCH MORE that shocked me. Every day, I would come across situations that left me wondering—why had no one told me this??

And the sad thing is, it is not just me. ALL the mums admit things have not been as they had expected (despite attending antenatal classes and reading parenting books), and it led to a LOT of unnecessary struggles. It impacted the way they parented their baby.

I could not stand the idea that future mums would be equally unprepared for life after the baby, so I wrote the book “Motherhood - The Unspoken” (link is in the bio) and, in cooperation with NHS midwife Marley Hall, created an online course, “GET PREPARED FOR MOTHERHOOD LIKE NO ONE ELSE,” that offers a deeper dive into life as a new mum. It shows how to deal with common challenges, maintain good mental health, and be the BEST mum for your baby.

The course contains everything I wish someone had told me before my kids arrived. I honestly believe it would have even saved me from postnatal depression.

But here I am today, giving this INCREDIBLE option to you.

For more details about the course, comment COURSE below.

Love, Ivana xx

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Hey, mama. I see you. The long nights, the endle

Hey, mama. I see you.

The long nights, the endless housework duties, the meals that need cooking, the little ones who need you every second of the day... It’s exhausting, overwhelming. You’re often running on empty.

But let me tell you: You are incredible!! ❤️

Every hug, every kiss, every bedtime story you tell, and every scraped knee you kiss better is a proof of your unwavering love and strength. Your children may not always say it, but they feel it. They thrive because of YOU.

You don’t have to be perfect to be a perfect mum. The love you give is more than enough.

So take a deep breath, give and know that you’re not alone.

We’re all in this together, and you are doing a fantastic job!

Share this if you need the reminder, and tag another amazing mum who needs to hear this. ❤️🤗

#motherhoodunplugged #mumssupportingmums #supportformums #mumsupport #unitedinmotherhood #motherhoodlife #motherhoodjourney

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