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I am author of Motherhood - The Unspoken, motivational speaker, award-winning mental health advocate, mother of three mixed race children (including twins) & wife to an amazing husband, who is on a mission to stop silent struggles and postnatal depression.

Ivana Poku

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🤰 Mum of mixed race twins+1
💪 Postnatal depression survivor
✍️ Author of Motherhood - The Unspoken
👇 Grab my self-care toolbox for burnt out mums

You’re not failing. You’re not weak. You’re

You’re not failing.
You’re not weak.
You’re just burnt out — and no one told you how normal that is.

The constant pressure to do it all.
To smile through the tears.
To keep going when all you want is five minutes of silence and someone to say, “It’s okay. You don’t have to be everything today.”

I created the Self-Care Toolbox for Exhausted Mums for you, because

🛑 Bubble baths don’t fix burnout
🛑 Telling you to “just rest more” doesn’t help when rest feels impossible

No fluff. No guilt-trips. Not another “take a walk” tip.

Just what actually helps when you’re at the end of your rope.

From one who’s been there and who gets it.

So if your heart is tired and no one sees it,
I see you.

Click the link in bio. Download the guide.
And please - let this be the moment you choose YOU. ❤️

You’re told to “take care of yourself” — B

You’re told to “take care of yourself” —
But how, when you haven’t peed alone in 3 years, your to-do list is screaming louder than your toddler, and your brain is running on caffeine and crumbs?

Let me say this louder: You’re not lazy. You’re not weak. You’re not doing it wrong.

You’re just BURNT OUT from carrying everyone else for too long.

And no, the answer isn’t a bubble bath.
It’s real-life self-care that fits around YOUR reality.

The chaos. The crumbs. The crying.

That’s why I created the “Self-care Toolbox For Burnt Out Mums”- not for the version of you with a free hour and a clean house (ha!).

But for the exhausted, stretched-too-thin, beautiful mess of a mum who needs something that actually helps.

✨ Practical tips you won’t find anywhere else (that you can apply right away)
✨ Tiny shifts that change everything
✨ And powerful mindset resets to help you finally feel human again

Because when you feel better, everything gets better.

Click the link in my bio to grab it now ❤️

You’re told to “take care of yourself” — B

You’re told to “take care of yourself” —
But how, when you haven’t peed alone in 3 years, your to-do list is screaming louder than your toddler, and your brain is running on caffeine and crumbs?

Let me say this louder: You’re not lazy. You’re not weak. You’re not doing it wrong.

You’re just BURNT OUT from carrying everyone else for too long.

And no, the answer isn’t a bubble bath.
It’s real-life self-care that fits around YOUR reality.

The chaos. The crumbs. The crying.

That’s why I created the “Self-care Toolbox For Burnt Out Mums”- not for the version of you with a free hour and a clean house (ha!).

But for the exhausted, stretched-too-thin, beautiful mess of a mum who needs something that actually helps.

✨ Practical tips
✨ Tiny shifts that change everything
✨ And powerful mindset resets to help you finally feel human again

Because when you feel better, everything gets better.

Click the link in my bio to grab it now ❤️

Posts like that might aim to raise awareness, but

Posts like that might aim to raise awareness, but they often just twist the knife.

Your kids don’t get “the worst of you.”

They get the truest you.

The you that’s run ragged.

The you that’s held in tears all day, smiled through meetings, swallowed stress, and still showed up.

You don’t snap at your boss because your nervous system is performing.

You snap at home because your body finally thinks it’s safe to let go.

It’s not failure. It’s biology.

It’s not weakness. It’s evidence of how much you’re carrying.

So don’t ever let posts like this guilt-trip you into thinking you are failing in any way.

You’re not impatient, you’re burnt out.
You’re not failing, you’re over-functioning.

The real question isn’t why you lose it at home.

It’s why the hell you’re expected to hold it together everywhere else.

What do YOU think?

Click the link in my bio for my new guide, SELF CA

Click the link in my bio for my new guide, SELF CARE TOOLBOX FOR BURNT OUT MUMS 🤗❤️

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If we want real change in maternity care, we have

If we want real change in maternity care, we have to talk about mental health too!

In the U.S., 38% of adults under 50 who don’t pl

In the U.S., 38% of adults under 50 who don’t plan to have children say it’s because they’re afraid of where the world is heading.

And honestly? As a mum - of mixed-race children, no less - I get it.

But here’s the thing: our children are the only real hope we have to change it.

My husband and I do everything we can to raise our boys to be kind, confident, respectful, and proud of who they are.

Now imagine if every child was raised that way.

Imagine what the world could look like in 30 years.

You might not be able to change how others raise their kids, but you can lead by example.

You can plant seeds. You can inspire.

So no - the world isn’t too far gone for children.

It’s crying out for them. For the kind that grow into the humans who make it better.

Let’s raise them.

Let’s believe in them.

Let’s build the future through them.

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