Feeling overwhelmed as a new mum?
Talk about it!
There are countless benefits of talking, but here’s number 1 – Talking can literally save you!
It saved me and it saved a lot of other mums out there.
I know that it’s not easy to talk about our feelings and thoughts – especially the ones we feel ashamed about. (we all have such feelings!)
As a new mum, you go through so much both physically and mentally.
You cope with all the overwhelming emotions while adjusting to the changes that come with the baby.
You feel like a pressure cooker that is about to explode.
Yet, you feel like the explosion is not an option so you do your best to manage – at least outwardly.
NOT EASY AT ALL!
But it is also not easy to let it all out and admit to another person that you hate motherhood at times, that you struggle to bond with your baby, or that you miss your old life.
It often takes time and a bit of help in order to open up to other people.
But once you do, you feel like a brand new person and often wonder why you waited so long.
Easier said than done, I know.
But don’t worry, I’ve got you covered!
As someone who suffered in silence for the longest 8 months before speaking up, I don’t want any other mum to feel like I did.
That’s why I decided to share with you why talking is crucial for every new mum and her mental wellbeing.
Below, I share 8 reasons why talking is important and – in many cases – LIFE-SAVING!
Let’s dive in!
1. It lifts an enormous weight off your shoulders
Sounds like such a cliche, but I was truly taken aback at the relief I experienced after I first opened up.
And frankly, I couldn’t understand why I had waited for so long and hadn’t spoken out earlier.
I know it can feel like the hardest thing to do but once you do it, it feels like the easiest thing ever.
I believe it is mostly fear of reactions of others that often stops us from talking in the first place.
But trust me, in most cases this fear is totally groundless.
2. It connects you with other people on a deeper level
Talking openly about how I really felt in my new role as a mum brought a greater connection with other people.
To my astonishment, some of my “old” friends did not show the kind of understanding and support I had expected from them.
On the other hand, some people I barely knew at the time blew me away with their attitude and proved nothing but brilliant and supportive during the most difficult time.
Being honest and open always brings new, amazing things into your life as well as the support from the directions you would not expect in the least.
3. It helps you to see things in a (new) light
Talking lets you see many things in a brand new perspective and often reveals various connections you did not see before.
And if you are lucky enough to talk to someone who offers you a bit of good advice, you benefit twice as much.
Consequently, even the biggest problem of yours does not seem so big anymore.
4. It frees up space for different emotions
This one is rather logic. If you want to feel better – if you want to let in different, positive emotions, you need to get rid of the “bad ones” first.
Talking can make you feel like a huge balloon has popped.
The more intense the feeling, you realise long you have repressed these emotions.
When you talk, you feel a huge pressure being released from your body and mind and suddenly, there is a space for new emotions to come in.
Of course, it does not mean that positive feelings automatically follow. It simply means you free up some space for something new.
5. It opens new doors you did not even know existed
This one slightly relates to point number two where I talk about the deeper connection with other people when opening up.
Surely, this fact itself is a great thing to experience in your life.
However, it does not end there. Here are a few things I never would have experienced if it wasn’t for talking:
I’ve met new, like-minded people
I got to experience new, great things
I got closer to my higher Self
Relationships in my life improved
I’ve helped and supported other parents
The list is almost endless.
Talking never ends there. If you follow the way it opens for you, you can get to places (literally and metaphorically speaking) you have never dreamt of getting to.
6. It always leads to something bigger
When you talk to someone, the other person will more likely react, in one way or another.
And whatever they say or do, will always lead somewhere bigger.
Let’s say you decide to talk about your feelings or problems to a stranger on the street.
It might be what they say, but it also might be something in their look, in their eyes, in their charisma, in their tone or in their body language that gives you some message…
A message that might give you hope, an idea, a realisation of something…
This idea or realisation then also leads somewhere…
Maybe even takes you in a different direction…
What I’m saying is that talking to someone always leads somewhere bigger and is never just a simple exchange of information.
7. It can save you
In the grand scheme of things, talking can actually save you.
Like I mentioned at the beginning of this post, it saved me and it has saved a lot of other people.
I was literally falling apart at the time I started to talk and I don’t even want to imagine what would have happened if I hadn’t.
If you should remember only one benefit from this post, please remember this one.
TALKING CAN SAVE YOU.
In countless ways.
7 Reasons You Should Talk About Your Feelings
There you go!
I hope this blog post helped you understand why talking is crucial for your mental well-being and give you the strength to open up.
Which of the reasons do you like the most?
Let me know in the comments!
PS. If you want more tips & support for new mums, read authentic stories from first-time mums, and discover the secrets about life as a new mum most parents find out TOO LATE, I invite you to check out my book Motherhood – The Unspoken.