What Are The Benefits Of Having Twins?

9 Powerful Benefits of Having Twins (That No One Talks About) 

Having twins is a conversation starter whether you want it or not.

Especially when they’re small.

On the street, in shops, in baby groups, during walks…

People stare. They guess. They comment.

But in my case, they don’t always realise they’re twins straight away.

They’re non-identical, so while there are some similarities, their height and facial features are different enough to throw people off.

And when someone asks how old one of them is and I answer, the next question is almost always: “And how old is the other one?”

Either way, people – especially fellow mums – tend to share their unfiltered opinions about twins.

Sometimes, all it takes is a glance, a smile, or a tiny gesture, and I instantly know: This woman either envies me… or pities me. (And sometimes, it’s both.)

I’ll never forget the young mum holding her baby who spotted my double load, shook her head, and with pure exhaustion in her voice, said: “I admire you so much.”

People often ask me what it’s like to have twins.

And the truth?

I’ll never know what it’s like to have “just” one child. And I never will do.

From my point of view, having twins is brutally hard and unbelievably beautiful.

But it’s not just double the work, it’s a completely different kind of work.

A whole different dynamic. A different pace. A different rhythm.

That said, I’d never claim it’s harder than having one.

Mums of one baby struggle in ways I’ve probably never experienced.

You might have one baby who’s an absolute handful – or twins who happen to be pretty chilled.

Who’s to say what’s harder?

A lot of women say, I could never handle twins.

And I always tell them the truth: You could and you absolutely would.

Because when you’re a mum, and it’s your reality, you just do it.

You cope. You adapt. You figure it out.

That doesn’t mean it’s easy, far from it!

Whether you have one, two, or more children, the early days feel impossible.

But somehow, you survive them. You grow through them.

When you have one child, you can’t imagine having twins.

When you have twins, you can’t imagine triplets.

And if you have none, even one feels unimaginable.

Today? On the hard days, when I’m wiped out and touched out, I find myself thinking: Thank God it’s only two.

And for a moment (just a moment)… that thought makes everything feel lighter.

So, how do I do it?

Honestly, I think it all starts with mindset.

Although the beginning was brutally hard, I eventually trained myself to focus on the positives of having twins.

And as time has gone on, I discovered more and more of them.

Let me share a few I found during the first year.

1. You’re less anxious as a mum

This one tops the list.

With your first baby, it’s normal to jump at every sound, sterilise the dummy 15 times a day, and feel like you need to monitor your baby 24/7. That’s just how it goes.

But with twins, it’s physically impossible to keep up with that level of intensity.

Take crying, for example. When they both cry at once, your instinct at first is to calm both right away.

But very quickly, you realise… you can’t. So you deal with them one at a time.

Uncomfortable? Very.

But you adapt. You survive. And you let go of that pressure to do everything “perfectly.”

Sterilising? If I’d tried to sterilise everything before each use, I’d have needed four versions of myself.

Eventually, the dummy that just hit the floor becomes fair game.

Same with attention. Of course I don’t ignore one twin, but I’ve learned how to divide my time and energy.

Sometimes one needs more. Sometimes they take turns.

It balances out.

2. You have more fun

This is one of my favourite things about twins.

In the early days, it didn’t feel “fun” at all.

But as they’ve grown, started playing together, laughing, bonding…. it’s honestly amazing.

They don’t need to do anything extraordinary.

Just hearing them laugh together is enough to melt my heart. It’s joy in its purest form.

3. Your twins learn social skills from day one

Twins do almost everything together from birth.

They eat, sleep, play, and co-exist side by side.

This teaches them to wait, share, and understand another person’s needs from a very young age.

It’s a massive advantage – not just now, but for life.

4. You deal with less sibling rivalry

While of course there are exceptions, most twins form a deep, lifelong bond.

That kind of connection is incredibly comforting – not just for them, but for us as parents too.

Knowing your children will always have each other is one of the most soul-soothing things a parent can carry.

5. You don’t have to go through everything twice

Some people only want one child, but many hope for two.

When people ask if I want another baby, I’m honestly back and forth.

When they’re sleeping peacefully, I sometimes feel that pull, that quiet longing.

But when they’re having one of those days, I think, No way.

So having two at once? It feels like a gift.

I may not need to go through it all again. And I’m okay with that.

6. Twins always have a built-in best friend

When you have one child, you often feel like you have to follow them everywhere – to the playground, soft play, playdates – because they have no one else to play with.

But with twins, you don’t have that problem. They always have a buddy.

Whether they’re at home or out and about, they’re never alone.

And that means you don’t need to be their constant playmate, which is honestly a relief.

7. You witness a rare kind of magic

There’s something almost indescribable about seeing your twins bond.

The way they mirror each other, protect each other, burst out laughing at the same time over something only they understand – it’s magic in its purest form.

It’s like watching love grow outside of you, between two little souls who started life together in the most intimate way possible.

8. You discover strength you didn’t know you had

After surviving the first year with twins, I genuinely thought: If I can do this, I can do anything.

Of course, every mum’s experience is different. For some, it’s relatively manageable. For others, it’s closer to torture.

But one thing’s for sure – you grow. You stretch. You face a mental challenge like no other, and when you come out the other side, you feel stronger than ever.

When they eat well and sleep at the same time, I honestly feel like Superwoman.

That’s not a bad feeling to have at all. 😊

9. You’re surrounded by more love

People love to say “double the trouble,” but they forget the other side of that coin: You’re also surrounded by double the love.

Twins bring light from every direction.

They’re two love-filled souls who fill your home with laughter, connection, and pure energy.

There’s nothing like it.

Final thoughts: what are the benefits of having twins?

The rewards of having twins don’t just balance out the challenges, they far outweigh them.

There were moments I felt hopeless, when I thought I couldn’t cope anymore.

But if I could turn back time, I wouldn’t change a single thing.

Because every day with my boys is a reminder that twins aren’t just double the work, they’re double the wonder, the love, and the magic.

Having twins has reshaped who I am: stronger, braver, and more grateful than I ever imagined possible.

And as we move forward, I’m excited to discover every new chapter, every new milestone, and every moment of joy that comes with this incredible journey.

If you’re on this path too, know this: You are more capable than you think.

If I could do it, you can do it!

Even though the first year is incredibly tough, there’s so much beauty woven through the chaos

Here’s to embracing the wild ride of twin motherhood – and coming out the other side, unbreakable.

With love,
Ivana xx