Last Updated on September 5, 2026 by Ivana Poku
Hey lovely lady!
I’m Ivana, a mum of three boys (including twins), and author of Motherhood – The Unspoken. I’m also the founder of this Mumsjourney blog where I write about the real, unfiltered side of motherhood while also helping mums feel less alone on this wild journey.
If you’re here, chances are you’ve already heard all about how hard having twins can be: the double feeds, the double crying, the double everything. So let’s talk about the other side of it.
Because after three kids and years of parenting twins, I can tell you: the benefits of having twins are just as real as the challenges, they just don’t get talked about nearly as much.
In this post, I’m sharing 9 of the biggest benefits of having twins that I’ve experienced firsthand.
“How do you do it with twins?”
Now, I don’t think having twins is as rare or special as it used to be, but it’s still definitely a great conversation starter.
Especially when they’re small!
Anywhere you go, people smile, comment, or ask questions.
My twins are non-identical, so in my case, most people didn’t even realise they were twins. So when someone asked how old they were, and I answered, the next question was always: “And how old is the other one?”
Either way, people tend to share their opinions about twins. Sometimes even without words! All it took was a glance, a smile, or a tiny gesture, and I knew right away if people envied me… or felt sorry for me. (Or both.)
I’ll never forget the young mum holding her baby who spotted my double load, and with pure exhaustion in her voice said: “I have so much respect for you!”
I admit, it was nice to hear.
A lot of people ask me, one way or another, what it’s really like to have twins.
Plenty of women say, “I could never handle twins!”. But as I always say: you could, and you absolutely would! Because when you’re a mum, and it’s your reality, you just do it.
That doesn’t mean it’s easy. Whether you have one, two, or more children, the early days feel impossible. But somehow, you deal with it and figure things out along the way.
I think it all starts with the mindset.
I’ve always believed you attract what you give your attention to, and it’s so true.
Although the beginning was brutally hard, and I even struggled with severe postnatal depression, I eventually trained myself to focus on the positives of having twins.
And as time has gone on, I’ve discovered more and more of them.
Ready to see what they are?
Let’s begin!
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1. You’re less anxious as a mum
This one tops the list.
With your first baby, it’s normal to feel anxious all the time. To jump at every sound, sterilise the dummy 15 times a day, and feel like you need to monitor your baby 24/7. That’s just how it goes.
But with twins, it’s physically impossible to keep up with that level of intensity.
Take crying, for example. When they both cry at once, your instinct at first is to calm both right away.
But very quickly, you realise… you can’t. So you deal with them one at a time.
It’s very uncomfortable, but you adapt and eventually let go of that pressure to do everything “right”.
Sterilising? If I’d tried to sterilise everything before each use, I’d have needed four versions of myself.
Eventually, the dummy that just hit the floor becomes fair game.
Same with attention. Of course I don’t ignore one twin, but I’ve learned how to divide my time and energy.
Sometimes one needs more, and sometimes they take turns.
It balances out.
2. You have more fun
This is one of my favourite things about twins.
In the early days, it didn’t feel “fun” at all.
But as they’ve grown, started playing together, laughing, bonding…. it’s honestly amazing.
They don’t need to do anything extraordinary. Just hearing them laugh together is enough to melt my heart. It’s joy in its purest form.
3. Your twins learn social skills from day one
Twins do almost everything together from birth.
They eat, sleep, play, and co-exist side by side.
This teaches them to wait, share, and understand another person’s needs from a very young age.
It’s a massive advantage – not just now, but for life.
4. You deal with less sibling rivalry
While of course there are exceptions, most twins form a deep, lifelong bond.
That kind of connection is incredibly comforting – not just for them, but for us as parents too.
Knowing your children will always have each other is one of the most soul-soothing things a parent can carry.
5. You don’t have to go through everything twice
Some people only want one child, but many hope for two.
When people ask if I want another baby, I’m honestly back and forth.
When they’re sleeping peacefully, I sometimes feel that pull, that quiet longing.
But when they’re having one of those days, I think, No way.
So having two at once? It feels like a gift.
I may not need to go through it all again. And I’m okay with that.
6. Twins always have a built-in best friend
When you have one child, you often feel like you have to follow them everywhere – to the playground, soft play, playdates – because they have no one else to play with.
But with twins, you don’t have that problem. They always have a buddy.
Whether they’re at home or out and about, they’re never alone.
And that means you don’t need to be their constant playmate, which is honestly a huge relief.
7. You witness a rare kind of magic
There’s something almost indescribable about seeing your twins bond.
The way they mirror each other, protect each other, burst out laughing at the same time over something only they understand – it’s magic in its purest form.
It’s like watching love grow outside of you, between two little souls who started life together in the most intimate way possible.
8. You discover strength you didn’t know you had
After surviving the first year with twins, I genuinely thought: If I can do this, I can do anything.
Of course, every mum’s experience is different. For some, it’s relatively manageable. For others, it’s closer to torture.
But one thing’s for sure. You grow and face a mental challenge like no other, and when you come out the other side, you feel stronger than ever.
When they eat well and sleep at the same time, I honestly feel like Superwoman.
That’s not a bad feeling to have at all. 😊
9. You’re surrounded by more love
People love to say “double the trouble,” but they forget the other side of that coin: You’re also surrounded by double the love.
Twins bring light from every direction.
They’re two love-filled souls who fill your home with laughter, connection, and pure energy.
There’s nothing like it.
Is It Different Having Twin Boys, Twin Girls, or One of Each
Obviously, I never had twin girls or one of each, but from what I’ve seen, it absolutely DOES make a difference what gender your twins are.
From what I’ve experienced myself and heard from other boy mums, boys tend to be more energetic and wild, which makes them harder work when they’re young.
But from what I’ve heard from twin mums, girls are more likely to get harder during teenage years.
(I can second that, I know what I was like as a teenager!)
So it’s not about what is harder, but how it’s different at each stage.
How Having Twins Has Changed as They’ve Grown
At the time I am editing this post, our twins are 10 years old.
And what a ride it’s been!
Now, in terms of how things changed as they’ve grown, I would say that more than anything, I am more aware and grateful for the benefits listed above than ever.
Especially the fact they have a best friend for life.
As they start to grow and face the ugliness of life, you slowly realise you won’t always be there to protect them. So the fact they will always have each other brings me as a mum a huge sense of comfort.
As well as knowing they will always be there for their baby brother.
Because ultimately, our job as mums is to prepare them for life and make sure they can exist without us.
And having twins makes this goal so much easier.
Final thoughts
The rewards of having twins don’t just balance out the challenges, they far outweigh them.
There were moments I felt hopeless, when I thought I couldn’t cope anymore.
But if I could turn back time, I wouldn’t change a single thing.
Because every day with my boys is a reminder that twins aren’t just double the work, they’re double the wonder, the love, and the magic.
Having twins has reshaped who I am: stronger, braver, and more grateful than I ever imagined possible.
And as we move forward, I’m excited to discover every new chapter, every new milestone, and every moment of joy that comes with this incredible journey.
If you’re on this path too, know this: You are more capable than you think.
If I could do it, you can do it!
Even though the first year is incredibly tough, there’s so much beauty woven through the chaos
Here’s to embracing the wild ride of twin motherhood – and coming out the other side, unbreakable.
With love,
Ivana xx
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PhDr. Ivana Poku is the author of Motherhood – The Unspoken, an award-winning blogger and maternal mental health advocate. Through her work, she is on a mission to create a world where mums feel seen, heard and supported. Ivana is also a mum of three boys, including twins, and lives with her family in a small coastal town in Scotland.
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